Demystifying Twin Flames

A movement back to wholeness through apparent separation 

Along the journey of Awakening, it is the path of some souls to split into two, live many separate lifetimes, and then — when the time is right — to reunite.

I understand this splitting as a kind of spiritual defence mechanism. Much like how the mind dissociates or the body suppresses difficult experiences, the soul, too, can divide. The split is not a mistake — it is a movement of Love, an impulse guided by Wisdom toward healing that simply takes time.

Over these many lifetimes, the two aspects of the one soul live as individuals. They become conditioned, act out inherited patterns, and follow their own unique paths. Often, they forget entirely that they were ever one.

Then one day, they meet their Twin Flame — and there is an immediate recognition. Not just of the other, but of something far more ancient. Something that was always there.

At first, the love feels otherworldly. Powerful, passionate, pure, disarming. For a moment, everything makes sense.

And then — all that is not love rises to the surface. Every fragment of false identity, every defence and distortion, every painful story comes into the light. The connection begins to burn through everything that has been built on top of the Truth.

The connection serves to purify both individuals, until the full Soul — no longer split, no longer resisting itself — can move freely through the two beings. At this point, there is no more resistance to what is. No more struggle with each other. No more fight with life. There is just flow. Love expressing itself through form.

Much like individuals, Twin Flame journeys vary. Some are more spiritually mature than others. Some process their layers alone before meeting, and some are meant to go deeper together. Others may separate and return again and again, until enough awareness has grown to hold the fire without collapsing into reactivity.

In any case, it is a beautiful journey of Truth and healing, and I am lucky to experience it every day with my wife, Nicola.