Part 1 of 3: The 'I am not good enough' syndrome

I always wonder why birds stay in the same plae when they can fly anywhere on the earth

I see the ‘I am not good enough’ syndrome as the reason for so many issues. Be it starting your business, finding a job, being in a relationship, creating art, or simply doing what you love - it is a blockage that stops us from expressing our true feelings, or true nature, to others or even to ourselves. 

And it all happens from a very early age. We are told what we ‘should’ do and exactly how to do it - from our parents, at school and university, and later at work. We live in a culture in which we are forced to constantly compare ourselves to others: Who has the better grade? Who has gone to the better university? Who has the better job? Who has the more expensive car? 

The truth is: 

There will always be someone who is better than you at what you do best, let alone what you do less well. 

And it seems to me that if you are never going to be the best, you might as well do what you love - right? And that means doing what you love, not what others want you to love. 

When you create just for yourself, and share it with others only when you are personally satisfied with what you have written/composed/painted/achieved, that is real freedom. But for that you need to be honest with yourself, know what you love doing, know that it doesn’t matter whether you are good enough, and create from a great sense of freedom - knowing that you are creating only for the sake of creation.

If, even when you are on your own, you think you are not good enough to do what you love - and continue to pretend that you enjoy living the life that other people want you to live - that shows you are afraid of being honest with yourself. And repressing our feelings is just another aspect of the societal conditioning. 

More on that in next week’s blog post - ‘What are you afraid of feeling?’